I know this is a sexual advice blog, hell I created it…..I should know 🙂 but I got something on my mind I want to talk to you about and no it’s not sexual
I recently had a birthday and for the first time in my life I really considered my age. I started looking at my life…I mean really looking and to be honest I didn’t like what I seen.
On top of that it’s December. We’ve got a new year coming.
Every December I spend the first two weeks thinking about what I want to accomplish over the next year. Once my birthday hits on the 15th I start writing these goals down with an action plan and a daily method of operation. By the time I’m done it’s very detailed right down to what I need to do on a daily basis in order to achieve my goals.
What is my point for telling you this? My point is this isn’t something I take lightly; I put a lot of time and effort into it. But more so than the time and effort I have to ask myself the hard questions and give myself the brutally honest answers.
It’s 4:06 AM. I just walked in from having a cigarette and while sitting outside smoking and thinking I asked myself this question.
What is “really” important in life?
Well the truth is that answer can and will vary for all of us but I think the one thing we all have in common is we want someone we can love, someone we can trust and we want that person to love and trust us in return.
The real shitty part of life is we all don’t get to have this. I don’t claim to know why that is but I do know it to be true.
If you are one of the lucky ones and have it then cherish it, don’t take it for granted cuz you just might end up losing it. I’ve seen great relationships fall apart over some of the dumbest shit known to man.
I get a lot of emails to this blog and a lot of my readers are having relationship problems. Some sexual and some aren’t.
If you’re having trust issues stemming from being lied to or cheated on then I understand but to those of you who say “we’ve just grown apart” or “he/she’s boring” or “ the spark just isn’t there anymore” I have something to say to you…….get it back.
The spark can be gotten back, boring can be made exciting and growing apart can once again be closeness. Don’t let something go that was once so beautiful just because a little bit of life may have gotten in the way. Don’t let petty things ruin a chance at a lifetime of happiness….It just may be your only chance of ever being happy. Contrary to popular belief sometimes second chances just don’t exist.
For every one of you that had something special and are letting it fall apart over something petty there are a hundred people waiting, wishing and hoping. Saying: “maybe, just maybe one day that could be me. If only I had the chance I would cherish it”
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying all relationships can be repaired…sometimes one person isn’t willing to make the necessary changes, or maybe they have a character flaw and they keep doing hurtful things no matter how many conversations you have….that’s not what I’m talking about here.
I’m talking about the relationships that once were beautiful but maybe life got in the way and caused you to grow apart or maybe there is something petty that’s caused a wedge between you. Hey…I know a whole bunch of little things can be a big thing but do me a favor….do yourself a favor.
Take a real long look at your partner and imagine your life without them.
Then Imagine them with someone else…..happy with someone else. Go ahead……..do it.
What did you feel? If you felt anything at all then there’s still a chance you can fix your relationship and you owe it to yourself to at least try, really trying, not just going through the motions to soothe your conscience
Don’t give up until you’re sure that all resources have been exhausted and there’s no chance at all that you can be happy with your significant other.
Make some time to be alone over the next couple of weeks. Think about whats really important to you and make 2013 YOUR best year ever.
This is the first post I’ve written that wasn’t requested by you the reader but based on some of the emails I’ve received I felt it was in order.
Like I said at the beginning of this post, this is supposed to be a sexual advice blog and yet you just read eight hundred words of me rambling and it wasn’t about sex. Maybe I’ll add a category called relationship advice and do a series on “how to get the spark back” what are your thoughts?
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